Clue: If you want to fulfill your intention, you will not get there with willpower!
Achieving goals is best approached as if you were trying to overcome an addiction. In fact, that’s exactly what you do. We all have addictions.
“Willpower is for people who are still unsure about what they want to do.” †Helia
If willpower is required, there is clearly some sort of internal conflict. You want to lose weight, but you also want that beer.
When willpower is required, there are two causes:
1. You don’t know what you want and therefore you have an internal conflict.
2. You are not tied to any goal/change and have created the conditions that facilitate your commitment.
What do you really want?
If reaching your goal requires willpower, you haven’t figured out what you want yet. Because once you’ve really made a decision, the internal debate is over.
After you’ve decided what you want, the decision is made. All future decisions on this have therefore also been taken. No questions.
So, are you serious about this? Until you decide, you must use willpower and you will continue to make minimal progress.
Are you committed?
When it comes to achieving goals, commitment involves:
Set a timeline made up of small measurable goals leading to the overall goal
Creating different forms of feedback and accountability
Remove everything in your environment that contradicts your commitment
Once you’re really committed, it’s like you’ve already passed. All doubt and disbelief are gone.
Commitment means building your life around your goals. Your inner determination, naked in front of an undefended and opposing environment, is not a commitment.
Create conditions that make success inevitable
You will not achieve your goals if you do not change your environment.
An alcoholic who really wants to stop drinking doesn’t have to hang out in bars and people who drink, but this analogy applies to all goals!
So consciously create an environment that facilitates your obligations. In fact, if you’re really committed to a cause, this is exactly what you’re going to do.
This is how personal growth occurs. We adapt to our environment. Personal growth thus involves consciously choosing or creating environments that help us become the person we want to become.
Bill Walsh said:
“If your why is strong enough, you’ll figure out how!”
If you must use willpower:
· You haven’t decided yet.
· Your desire (your “why”) for your goals is not strong enough.
· You are not fully committed to what you are going to do.
· Your environment is not in line with your goals. You have not created an environment that facilitates the achievement of your goals.
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