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I recently read an article on Newsweek titled “Man’s ‘Blud Honesty’ About Why He Can’t Date Overweight Woman Sparks Debate”.
The first paragraph of the article read reads as follows:
“A man who told a woman in no uncertain terms that they couldn’t date because she was overweight sparked a big discussion about dating preferences and honesty online.”
I must tell you that this is a topic that we have been discussing with some of our readers here on our website and on our social media accounts. At first glance, this problem seems to be a man who has no content in common with an overweight woman. But that said, is it really superficial when a person who isn’t fat refuses to date someone else who is? In some cases it can certainly be superficiality, but there is another side to this subject that needs to be addressed that does not pertain to those who do not have good character traits. I’m in no way condoning anyone else being treated with cruelty — but just because someone isn’t dating you because you’re fat doesn’t necessarily mean they’re being cruel to you. And here’s why:
You might think this issue is just about looks, but have you ever thought that it might be more about lifestyle than anything else. If you are obese and your love interest is in good physical shape, do you think it is possible that your different lifestyles are not compatible with each other? If your love interest is in very physical sports, are you going to get in shape to enjoy those sports with them? Or would you expect your object of desire to adapt their lifestyle to yours? If so, neither of you will ever be happy with the other. Can you walk through a park or nature trail all day? What about cycling, can you go very far before you are ready to stop? Would you rather eat out than do the shopping, and then cook healthy food at home? Are you, the overweight person, able to accept that your loved one is proactive and make it a priority to be healthy every day? You may be offended that someone who is “good looking and fit” won’t date you, but how much are you willing to adapt your lifestyle to theirs? We need to understand that most people date people who have lives that are somewhat similar rather than completely opposite. Would you bring into your life someone who likely has or already has conditions that can be directly attributed to poor lifestyle choices? How much responsibility do you want to bear for the burdens of others that they have largely caused themselves. Would you date an alcoholic or a drug addict? Whether you want to admit it or not, food addiction is just as harmful — even if you’ve been over-indulging in church events.
I’m going to close this by saying that I absolutely can’t stand nasty spicy or bullying behavior from anyone for any reason. But if you have a weight problem and feel shunned by someone who refuses to date you, chances are it’s not because of how your weight affects your appearance – you don’t have to be thin and in shape to be attractive .
What you need to understand is that people with different lifestyles often don’t mix in relationships. Have you ever known a doctor to date a day laborer? Probably not. But if you do, you would know that this is the exception and not the rule. The next time someone rejects your advances because of your weight, I want you to think about something – how would you react if someone who was of sane mind but suffered from something like cerebral palsy or some other debilitating illness that would disrupt your lifestyle tried to work with you to date? Do you think this would be a different circumstance from yours? If so, let us know why.
This article is not intended to offend anyone, but to make people think and check their own attitude in how they behave towards others. We all have people we wouldn’t date for one reason or another, and this simple fact doesn’t necessarily make us self-centered, mean people.
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